I think it’s safe for me to say that people into kinks and fetishes generally think of themselves as being most open. However, it surprises us when, at times, a group or religion attempts to define how we should behave with what we consider to be our personal sexually creative side. It's like telling an artist what he should paint, or a master chef to go back to making cheeseburgers.

There lies the controversy. It's no surprise to anyone that what were once taboo subjects move to mainstream at some point. Must I remind you that masturbation was a huge taboo not too long ago? but ask a young adult today if they masturbate and the probably won’t even blush. On the other hand, what are we showing our children? We tend towards entertainment that is more and more “cutting edge”. After all, who wants to see ordinary boring lives? However, in doing so, do we give children the impression that this is all there is, or this is the candy when we all know it isn't?

The Parents Television Council (or PTC) recently did a study of current TV shows and found that sex outside of marriage, and even kink, outnumbered marriage sex 3 to 1! It should be clear to most of us that these shows are intended for mature adults with an understanding that playing with a partner is a mental experience, not just physical, or else you'd have fun just playing alone, in my opinion. Maybe throwing in a bit of early teachings on the term "consensual" to children is where it should start? After all, it's a major part and quality of life.

Here are some references, views and commentaries.You can leave your comments on most of them, as well as here. Read what CNN reported: "Sex beats marriage on network TV, study shows" Aarkeybabble also has his say: "Marriage Undermined" Parentstv.org: "Happily Never After"

On a side note: I'm not criticizing their findings, I think they have a few good points especially regarding "family hour" ratings from TV networks, however I find it a little alarming when they clearly separate kink from sex in marriages/relationships. The wording almost makes it sound like kink and fetishes are "wrong" and shouldn't be a part of any healthy mariage!